How much do you owe to yourself

In this article we will put a light into why we still feel like we owe something to ourselves and we ain’t doing something about it.

Why is it that we postpone those activities that have a direct effect on our personal life but still we don’t commit to them? Why is it that we struggle so much with our personal discipline in comparison to being commited to external things and other people?

Basically we need to understand that there is a natural resistance to commit to personal disciplines because they change the way we live and there is an area of us that doesn’t want this change. We kind of want the benefits of a certain habit or activity but we don’t want to transform our whole lifestyle in order to stay commited.

There is also a biological factor, the way we live, think, feel, express, learn, etc meaning any experience is determined by our nervous system, so any change that we might want to make, we will have to make it also in our own brain. This is a big effort for him, it requires lots of energy, create new neuronal connections, reinforce them by repetition and basically teaching to our body the new way to be and do. Because our entire system took so many years to be the way it is, the older we get the harder is to change it. Its just too much work.

Fortunately this can change and its called neuroplasticity, the more we engage into new experiences, learn new stuff and keep healthy “brain workout” habits, the more we increase our possibilities to transform inside out. Travelling, meditation, languages, math, physical training, are just a few of ways to make our system to change.

Priority check

What are your priorities? What have been your priorities for the past 10 or 5 years? What priorities would you like to change or renew? Taking some time to reflect into our priorities is the best way to discard anything that we might believe we want but we are not prioritizing, because in the end if we are always feeling like we could do more or something different but we are never engaging actively into it, then the number one reason is that we don’t really want do it. Being honest to ourselves is good and we should not be embarassed to accept that we don’t want to look fit, we don’t want to stop eating ice cream or we don’t want to change our social lifestyle.

The priority meter

One good exercise is to make a list of your priorities, usually something in between 6 to 12, you draw a circle, give to each one of them a current level of accomplishment from 1 to 10 and ask yurself in a short term how much you would like to improve their level and what actions are you going to take right now to do so. Write down the date and hang it on the wall in a very visible way so you never lose sight of your priority activities.

Spot your kind of resistance

Right after you know your priorities with certainty you will want to spot on what kind of resistances you will have to beat up. I believe this is as important as the first part because we may do the motivational coaching job to define our next goals a thousand times and never really getting them. We need to know our enemy that lies in the shadows and we know it very well, it is just so good at hidding itself. Here is a list of the most common resistances that we all might have.

  • Attachment, addiction.
  • Comfort, lazyness.
  • Evasion, procrastination.
  • Overthinking, doubt.
  • Fear, distrust.
  • Lack of motivation and vision.

Once you have clarity over your main resistances you will be able to create a strategy to overcome them and step forward towards a life in which you feel really happy and connected to your own self, with the peace that you are actually doing everything that is in you to feel that way and having the results you wanted.

Accountability peers and coaching

Asking for help is one of the simplest way to introduce changes in our life, changing our social circle, having an accountability partner, sorround yourself with people with same goals and aspirations, and so on. Because there are some neurons that act as mirror and they literally copy the neurons of other people, we can induce behavioral changes by imitating how others drive their life.

Finally having a coach can be very transformative in various ways and can help you to jump from level 0 to 100 faster and better. Not because a coach is a divine being, but because is a person that has studied and perfectioned techniques to do so. Also because to be a coach and set an example to others, that individual had to overcome his/her own negligence. In the end nobody is an exception to the rule, we are all human beings with sort of the same problems and challenges.

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Master the art of repetition success

In this blog post we will review what do we need to do in order to get to the level we want to be, which I believe if you are reading this article, is the best you can achieve.

For anything you want to be good at you need to practice it and that means repetition. For many people sounds boring and they just give up the idea of becoming great at something, and that is what separates normal people from profesionals and it is also what separates them from true masters.

Repetition is the key to mastery because we teach our brain the skills that are necessary to be the best we can. We teach our body how to move, how to sleep and wake up, we teach our mind how to think and how to manage our feelings and emotions. We teach ourselves how to deal with any external situation, how to overcome any challenge.

Only by repeating we discover the power that the practice has in us and we are able to meet our goals. Until the day we are completely incapacitated or dead we can always try again. So repeat and repeat and repeat, when bored or tired, take a short break, inspire yourself with the world outside and then continue repeating until the end.

The Mastery Mindset

If you want to become the best version of yourself then you will want to know what is the mindset required for that. Maybe you are half aware of it, but if our mindset is not clear, then the ritual to keep that mindset “on” will not be clear and in the end we will fall from the most typical mistake we all do; To not even know how to be constantly connected and conscious of what sort of thoughts, emotions and just any other habit to be the person you want to be.

So the fact is that when we put ourselves into any kind of endeavour we will have to do things that don’t produce instant pleasure, in fact they will make us suffer. Like leaving sugar or waking up at 5am or stop going to the bar after work and instead visit our parents. If you decided to become a doctor and you are not willingly to study and have thousands of over nights shifts, then just don’t waste your own time and don’t start something that you are not willing to finish up.

Said this, the three most desired components to have the best mindset are: Relentlesness, focus and commitment.

The meaningful sacrifice

There are small sacrifices and big sacrifices we all make regardless of who we are and where we come from. We are constantly making choices, some of them lead us closer to the life we want and others not. In the end we can’t really know if our decisions were the right ones until is too late, we make mistakes and thats part of life too. We can prevent some of them by being more aware and improve our decision making skills.

Even said all this, in some moment, we need to sacrifice something to reach the new level we want. Maybe we need to leave those friends that only do trash talk and drinking and instead meet people with common goals and activities. Maybe we need to sleep less time, and maybe we need to be ultra organized with our time. But for whatever it is, is better to make this sacrifices a conscious one and choose them from your own will rather than let life force you into sacrifices you didn’t even wanted. You can choose to be a drift or navigate the storms you chose.

When you own your sacrifice, then you recognize the value of your energy and time and real trust surges from within. Nobody will ever be able manipulate you or seduce you out from your life purpose. You will own your life, your challenges will be yours to take and you will have and build the strength to go through out any storm victorious.

The desired atributes

Imagine you are an amazing artisan doing your thing. What are the most important atributes that you would need to be that artisan?

Think about this for a minute and then ask your self, if you have those atributes. If you have them, give yourself a mark of your current level and ask yourself how can you improve them.

How much time do you spend in your craft? How much concentration do you put while at it? Are you 100% present all the time when working for that in which you want to get a real mastery? What are the external circumstances that won’t let you do that and what are the internal habits and attitudes that are really not helping you out.

If you are ready to give a step forward, then show your level of commitment and let go those things that are opposing your purpose. If you are trully that passionate and confident about it, you will find the way to change the cards and transform your life completely.

The environement

Changing our environment is as important as changing from the inside. Little transformations give a great refreshment and more doable than big environment changes. Here is a list of things to take care of when wanting to really focus and become the best version of yourself.

  • Tidy up your home and office frecuently.
  • Have a specific place for your activity.
  • Speak with positive minded people that makes you feel all is possible.
  • Have a way to express your frustrations and fears so they don’t intoxicate you.
  • Separate yourself from energy vampires and toxic friends and family.
  • Spend quality time with your beloved.
  • Go out to nature as frecuently as possible.
  • Walk!

The last resource

The last resource is the first resource and that is you. By learning how to meditate and breath with awareness you will learn how to unlock stored energy, transform any sort of negative emotion and enjoy your life with quality.

Do it daily and anytime. 5 minutes is better than none and what you win by repeating the act of sitting down and connect to yourself by breathing is priceless.

You can be doing this while you perform any other thing and it makes it one of the best tools to access our nervous system and hack it to become truly masters of ourselves.

I wish you a great sucess in everything you do.

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Core Habits: Why everybody should know about them

The key to act in consequence with our inner truth is rooted in the habits that will help you grow and nurture your most important objectives and purpose.

This article will help you understand what core habits are and why you should have a clear vision about them.

Identifying our habits

We all have habits, thats a clear thing, but not all of them have the same importance or we prioritize them in the same manner. When we are kids we are normally taught basic habits by our parents and teachers at school to help us adapt and progress through life. Some of those we as adult may keep and others not.

Then as young adults we start choosing all sort of new habits that are closer to our personal interest, but we don’t always succeed on growing them because of lack of motivation and discipline.

If I could ask anyone how many habits do you have and how many of them did you choose, how many of them do you work consistently on or how many of your habits are you aware of. I wouldn’t be surprised to find that somebody ansers: “I am not sure how many habits do I have, maybe most of my current habits were grown at a young age motivated by my enviorenment, I can only work consistently in 1 or 2 habits, maybe I am not fully aware of all my habits”.

When speaking about habits I like to separate them into 3 categories, external habits, internal habits, unconscious habits.

The external habits are those that represent any kind of behavior that is directly related to our occupation, relationships and self expression. Like at what hour do you wake up, how many days do you workout, your working hour schedules and routines, how do you intercat with others and what sort of relationships do you build. Basically anything that requires to interact direclty with the outside world.

The internal habits are subconscious layers of our behaviors that happen in our psyche. Emotional patterns, mental patterns and the interaction between them that normally fuel and motivate our external habits. “I workout because it makes me feel happy” for example, could be seen as only one habit, but in reality is formed by a group of them, external and internal repeteative actions that together build up the behavior and the habit.

Also everytime I get angry or lose patience I shout to the person that apparently is to blame, afterwards I feel guilt for my lack of self control and this generates a feeling of distrust, sadness and frustration, which may be strengthening a current habit that is always present in all my relationships, but because people accept the way I act, then the habit is never changed.

So we could observe all the habits going on in that sequence and understand why I can never feel real happiness within myself and my couple. In that sense we need to understand that habits don’t work as a singular action, they are all related to each other like a plate of pasta, making it hard to recognize where is the begining or the end.

The third kind of habits, the “unconscious” are all the habits that we constantly do and we aren’t aware of. So basically most of them unless you have done a big job indentifying how your pshyche is built and also, you are consciously choosing every word you think and say, every aspect of your life and how you manage every relationship. Personally I believe that being fully aware of everything is an endless work and the risk is to fall into an over-restrictive and excesive control way of life, that in result can bring stress and unhappiness overall if there is no balance and healthy ways to manage yourself.

The Habit Hierarchy

One solution to become aware in a healthy way of our habits is to learn their hierarchy, basically giving them a value and focusing on those who are really important. By prioritizing our habits we also learn to be coherent with our truth and core values.

The question we need to ask is: To which values are my habits related?

When we start taking care of the most important habits that define our current life, the way we act, the way we feel, the way we look, the way we think, the way we share and connect to others, then all the rest of our behaviors, patterns and small habits will fall like domino pieces. The seceret is to take care of the root first and then take precise attention over the branches, if necessary.

Core values and Core Habits

Once you have identified your top 5 core habits (the ones that basically sustain who you are internally and externally) is good to get a deeper understanding about them by making a cross comparisson to your core values. If there is a habit that is not coherent with any of the most important values it means that there is somethig you will want to change.

Either you change that habit or review your values and check if that is who you really are and want to be. By addressing your values and habits you build a powerful structure that will give support to your overall life. Also by identifying your core values you will know why and what really motivates you, which will be transfered as a fluid energy source for you and your daily life.

Here are a set of questions to help you recognize the core habits that you need to reach any objective in your life.

  • What are the 3 most important things in my life?
  • What do I do in a daily and weekly basis to nurture this parts of my life?
  • What am I not doing but I know I should be doing to get better on this 3 aspects or objectives?
  • What values motivate me to have this habits in my life and get better at them?
  • Which habits could I change or let go to prioritize those that are most important to me?

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Staying positive is an act of courage

In a world full of dangers being positive is an act of courage.

Be willingly to choose a positive attitude towards our everyday challenges is a key component to understand what true happiness means.

In this article we will review how important is to make conscious decisions to stay positive and how to deal with negativity, apathy and hopelessness.

Being Positive is a Choice

It may sound obvious but is not. The perspective from which we experience life is conditioned by external forces, emotional awareness, thought patterns, educational level, cultural values and finally from our internal truth.

The last one, being the most important one, normally is the weakest or the less conscious, because is easier to let ourselves be swayed by all the external conditioning that we have received over the course of the years. Then the capacity to intentionally change from our “programming” over a new way requires incredible inner strength, veracity and time to create new behavioral patterns.

But even with all this, we always have the choice to think and live with optimism and positivity. As everything else, it will require practice, constant practice.

Subjective Awareness

When two people are facing the same situation, each one of them will have very different perspectives over it, even if there is a collective experience, the perspective remains subjective or individual.

So the first thing to understand is that your experience is unique and the way you live it is also unique because first of all, it will never be repeated again. You may try to repeat it with the same conditions over and over again, but you will experience your own changes, so in that matter, the observer of the experience is always changing, therefore there is only one real experience for everything and it always happens in the present moment.

Thanks to this we experience something called “learning process or adaptation”. The more we repeat an experience, we get more used to it, we learn more efficient ways to do it and deeper levels of understanding and experiencing it. In the end our experiences become memory, which becomes knowledge that we may use to change the results of any experience and in time we may say that the sum of all of it is viewed as wisdom.

The more aware we become to our own behavioral patterns and get better at observing patterns around us, we get better at understanding our world around us too. The exercise of observation is by far the best learning tool at our hand.

The Observer and The Judge

To be a good observer one must always remain free and neutral but the way we are constructed as human beings makes this very difficult, because our instinct responds to experiences with very basic and real emotions that make all the difference in our everyday choices. Either we like something or we reject it.

Liking is reinforced by pleassure, sense of oneness and joy. Rejecting is reinforced by fear, anger and apathy. So in some moment The Observer transform into a Judge. The judge will decide whether something is acceptable and repeatable or not. Because the Judge is a mental abstraction composed not only in our instinctive behaviors but also in our rationality, it will unify concepts like “values” into our core and act in coherence.

When the Judge is strongly conditioned it is very difficult to ask from him to act differently. So we must appeal to the observer which has the capacity to stay neutral and intentionally change the Judge behaviors. Because the Judge has been constructed over strong values, we will be confronted and is exactly at this point in which we will require courage to rebel against the Judge and the values behind him.

Negativity, Apathy and Hopelessness

Negativity and pessimism are a disease that intoxicates the Judge when there have been too many experiences that reinforce them, but they can also be a choice. They are the first enemy to defeat, acting like big bullies telling that something is not possible, that you are not good enough, that you don’t have enough value or that you don’t deserve good and happiness.

They are the harbingers of apathetic behaviors and we must act with strength against them so they don’t reinforce such attitudes. If not, those emotions and mental states will easily manipulate you with guilt and make you fall in the pit of hopelessness where you will just wait for the day of your death without any light in your soul.

How to deal with negativity

There are 5 mental and emotional attitudes that will help anyone to deal with negativity and transform their life experience into a positive one.

  • Acceptability: The capacity to observe any experience as it is and remain untouched. It gives you the distance to understand and act from your inner truth and not conditioned by the effects of the experience.
  • Gratitude: It helps you reinforce the positive parts of your life and identify to the experiences that caused them, helping you to change your mood and emotional disposition to other experiences.
  • Self-Compassion: The true meaning of compassion is born from within and we must be able to give it to ourselves before to anyone else. Treating yourself with kindness, open hearted love will calm any negative emotion and protect you from self-destructive behaviors.
  • Presence: When being present you give to yourself the chance to let go the past and see that today is a new day with new opportunities. Be here now and the door of peace will open for you.
  • Equanimity: Nothing is so bad and nothing is so good, or said differently, things could be worse or better. By cultivating the notion that extremes are subjective to our perspective, we may remain centered and less affected by negative emotions or blinded by positive ones.

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Be unstoppable: The power to believe you can

The power to believe

I can. I can. I can. I can do it. I can be. I can have. I can change. I can move. I can fight. I can rest. I can understand. I can learn. I can listen. I can communicate. I can express. I can teach. I can explore. I can forgive. I can remember. I can love. I can feel. I can cry. I can smile. I can enjoy. I can create. I can grow. I can live. I can die.

In this article we will explore the power to believe, how to get a clear idea of our priorities and how empower them to make them come true.

The act of believing is the main act

The most powerful act is to believe in ourselves, in our objectives, in our dreams. When things get difficult, when things get stuck, when feeling paralyzed or overwhelmed, the act of believing will get us out, will set us into action, will change our mood, fill our motivation and courage to do whatever is necessary.

When things are easy and smooth we don’t give so much importance to it, but in desperate times it turns out our beacon of hope. We must light it up with spells and affirmations, with positive thinking and with focus on the present moment.

What can we do now, with what we have in the best way possible?

Turns out that we don’t always meet the ideal requirements to fulfill our goals. Some days ago I read a post from a person stating that the main difference in between successful people and those who aren’t is that the successful people will focus on doing imperfectly rather than waiting for the ideal time.

You want to make videos but you only got your mobile. You want to workout but you can’t afford a gym membership. You want to travel but you don’t have the time or money for it. You want to invite your couple for a romantic date but you lack ideas or don’t feel attractive enough.

There are countless times in which our ideals are far from our reality, nevertheless when doing them anyway you discover a sense of progress and commitment. When you are able to cross through the excuses and put yourself into action anyway, perhaps you don’t get the most desirable results but the ones you get are better than doing nothing.

90% of the people I talk with, will tell me their “situation” and when given a possible solution they will answer like “My problem is…” and even if you continue giving them more solutions their answer will always start in the same way. At some point I ask if they really want to make a change or whats the whole idea of stressing up about something that in reality they don’t want to change!

It is tiring for them, it is tiring for their interlocutor and it is just a waste of time. If you are up to something, just do it and search for results later. When getting dead serious about it, you will find solutions, you will know what to do or what you need to prioritize.

Solution oriented mindset

If you are struggling with many things at the same time or you feel lost and stuck I have a very good exercise that will really help you out. It is a very simple way to detect and clarify everything that is troubling you, all the possible solutions and what to prioritize first.

  1. Make a list of all your problems, troubles and things you need to change or results you want to bring.
  2. Make a parallel list with all possible solutions for each one of them.
  3. Connect those that depends on each other, which solutions would address more than one problem, giving them an order of importance.
  4. Clarify your number 1 priority/solution that would help fix as many problems as possible or that would set up the base to start fixing them.

When you get a clear answer out of it, put yourself in action, sometimes we attract the solution without doing much.

On 2021, I was feeling very lost and was hard to put myself in action. I did this exercise and discovered that the root problem and the main solution that would help me reach out my other goals was only one, I needed to improve my french!

2 weeks later an opportunity came to attend a language school. After several months of stagnation I felt like finally getting out from the dark forest, the path was clear again, the financial situation improved and since then, things got better and better.

To believe you can, you need clarity over your priorities

So rather than having a blind faith over a distant dream I would rather suggest to allow yourself to clarify and define your priorities and use the power of belief to empower them. Imagine you are firing an arrow, you need to visualize it reach its destiny and after you throw it, believe it will come where you aimed at, there is nothing else to do afterwards.

Charge your arrows with positive affirmations to enchant them. To do so write down what you want, state it in present tense, use only positive words. Close your eyes and imagine yourself firing arrows and using powerful words to command them to reach their aim with success.

After all, the rest is just repetition and patience. Have a great day and share this post with friends and family!

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Mindset: There is only one direction, forward

How to create a mindset that helps you keep going forward, even when all odds are against you?

In this article I will give you 3 ideas and strategies to start changing right now the way you identify with yourself, with success and failure so you can create a powerful and strong mindset.

10 years ago I decided to step into being a “lifestyle entrepreneur”. What is this? Well basically you create a business around yourself to have the life you will enjoy most, that will make you feel happy, free, successful, etc. This years have given me deep understanding about the process, what skills are required and how to deal with failure, lots of it.

I like that phrase that says: “If it was easy, everybody would do it”. I believe it applies to anyone that is trying to step over from a harsh environment, your comfort zone or trying to get to your “next level” (whatever it may be).

When first arrived to France I had to start from totally 0, had no connections, not plenty of money, just a big dream and lots of new cultural challenges. I remember that I bought a second hand bicycle (about 200 euros) to move around. I was living in a small town, in an area that you are at least 15km from any other town.

I remember starting to get my first personal training clients and the first studios where I could give Yoga lessons. I was just happy because I was able to do it. Of course I had to bike a lot! It was fun but at the same time very harsh, especially when there were cold rainy/windy days during winter. Most of the people around would say: “I could never do that”.

One specially cold and rainy night, I was biking back to my home, it was one hour so I was just listening music with my headphones and seeing the whole “scene” as a movie like moment of my life. While reflecting on my life and goals I had a very powerful thought: “If you are not doing it when is hard, then you will probably not going to do it when is easy”.

Normally you would think it is the opposite, but if you pay close attention to your own life, you will probably see that the moments in which you progressed the most, were those moments in which it was most challenging. Also thinking the opposite like: “I am going to do it in a better moment”, is very dangerous, because it keeps you pushing off your goals and aspirations.

In the end it doesn’t matter how much you want something if you are not ready to do it even with the worst conditions. Because those days, when done, they make you stronger, they make you feel powerful, they become a stamp of your willpower and gives you the motivation to keep up.

How to create a powerful mindset that helps you keep going against rain and wind?

One direction: One day we are all going to die, certainly. So keep up your life very simple minded and avoid complications. There is no way to go back in time and “re do”. So just let go the good times and the bad ones too, and focus on what can you do today while looking forward.

There are no mistakes: In certain moments we are forced to make tough decisions. What happens after any decision are the consequences of it. So you can look into them with the “positive crystal” or the “negative crystal”, meaning, we are going to be judged by our own consciousness and sometimes others because of our decisions. Never let those judgments to take power from you, just learn the lessons, make the most of it, and see your goals to the end.

Embrace the present moment: By developing a disciplined “positive mind”, you will learn to see any moment with good eyes. Accept what you have around you, accept the people around you, accept it all and let it be. You will find peace instead of stress, calm instead of anxiety, gratitude instead of fear.

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3 tools to wake up the fire of determination

Learn 3 tools to wake up the fire of determination and never let anything to stop you from getting what you want and becoming who you want to be.

Are you lacking the determination required to make any change in your life? Do you consider yourself a determined person when it comes to be 100% committed? What is the reason that some people can have the conviction to follow a path all the way in and many others don’t?

Why you should learn how to fire up and cut the crap quickly?

Life works with cycles and without them, probably it would lose the capacity to keep on going and evolving.

That’s right, the way we progress is by cycles too and we should aim to understand and set up our priorities accordingly. One of the biggest mistakes is to believe things are linear and we just need to go straight forward onto them.

So naturally we feel the desire to get something new and to do so we will need to make some adjustments on our daily habits in order to get it. The problem comes when we are not fully aware of our own cycles, so we expect to “work” with the same intensity all the time, for example. This bring us to deception and repetitive failure, which can make us feel frustration, guilt, anger, etc.

What will mostly happen is that we will need extra energy and time to get fired up again, and if we don’t know exactly how to do it efficiently, then we will quit that endeavour by calling it too difficult, not the right time, not enough “insert skill here”, and so on.

Most skillful and successful people know exactly what to do when having their fire down, because they create a ritual or a group of actions to change it.

Understanding our motivation cycles

A wise-man shaman told me once that motivation is not enough to transform your life, that is only the beginning. If motivation is like a big fire in your heart, then determination is the spark that started it.

So let set an example, imagine that tomorrow you are starting a new diet, and by the 3rd day you go out with some friends and eat some slices of your favorite pizza. Most of us will feel guilt and after that will decide to re start the diet next week to fill up again with enough determination (strength). Which predictable we are not gonna start it again in any close date.

So we want to change this and we are not sure of how. Well, first take notes of all your failures and successes and try to understand how your “motivation cycle works”. What do you do to feel motivated enough and then what do you do to start, and after what do you do to “fail” or “succeed”. Once you get a clear understanding on how do you work internally, then is time to make some changes into that.

We will want to avoid repeating the cycles that brought us to failure, but because we are never really free from them, we should aim to build a protective mindset mechanism that will allow us to fall deep enough to quit(again).

How to start the fire “again”?

Get a goal, make a simple plan and start with what you can and have at the moment.

Sounds easy… but is not.

We will need 3 items to be able to start our fire again and again until we become very skillful and we basically stop noticing any deep changes in our mood and discipline.

Item #1: A ritual to make you spark on anytime and anywhere. It can be some sort of dance, getting out in nature, a conversation with a very like minded and positive friend or coach. Anything that as soon as you do it, makes you feel again the spark to start over and continue. I used to watch some motivational videos in youtube, made a playlist that I would listen everyday after work and would go directly to my training session, no distractions in the middle.

Item #2: The right mindset. Which basically means to understand that life is about cycles, that there are always going to be ups and downs, that perfection is an unattainable ghost, that nothing is so bad or so good, and we can always start again, no matter our age or anything else. The more we cultivate the right mindset, the less danger to quit or dwell into frustration, guilt and other negative emotions and thoughts.

Item #3: An object that remind us who we are, why we started and help us keep our faith in ourselves intact. It can be anything that regardless of the tides of life will always remember us our own value. We need conviction and a recordatory of it. It can be a song, a photo, a certain emotion or experience. Anything that keep us anchored to our inner strength and purpose. I like using a visual recordatory on the wall that I can see everyday.

What now? What else is needed? Am I ready to become a 100% fully determined person that will never let my failures put me down again so I can strive to be the best version of myself?

YES! and not exactly. Why? Because of course this requires practice and repetition, over and over and over. So my sincere wish is that you learn to see failure as your best friend and as new opportunities to master your determination.

There is no specific order in how to apply this tools, just concentrate in repeating them, making changes from time to time. Build up your winning ritual, write down the exact words to cultivate the right mindset and keep your object of anchorage close to you. The rest is just practice and nothing else.

Have a fully determined day starting right now!

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Undoubtfully, our heart always knows our hidden truth. For some reason this will always apply, regardless of any situation. If we could just focus on what our heart and intuition has to say for us, we could really walk our daily life without all the mumbling that our mind has. 

One day a friend asked me what did I do with all my preocupations when speaking about decisions for our life. And I just told her, “I quit them”. Just plainly and simply, I was cornered to a position in which whatever I could do, would solve none of my problems. And at this situation the only thing I could really do was to quit thinking about my problems and just “go with the flow” with whatever decision I took.

Suddenly this became a mayor wisdom for me, because the only thing left for me, was a huge amount of determination that I could really use in my everyday life to just go through whatever it was tossed to me. It was’t that my problems disapeared from me, I just understood one simple principle, “the only thing i really had, was my present moment”. And at this level, when you understand this and you really start living it, then every preocupation, fear and doubt, just go away. You stop thinking about what might be, and you start doing what you can with what you’ve got. And life turns simply into a matter of doing and following this energy of determination and will. Like if suddenly you could grab the wave, and you would just flow with it, without thinking about anything else.

I’ve been travelling and having deep conversations through all my journeys with different people from all over the world, and many of them, eventually would say me something like, “wow, Félix, you are so inspiring”. And this, far from getting me into feeling like a better person, just make me realize that probably is because of the passion and positivity from which I tell my stories.

One day I just realized that our past is imposible to change, but the way you talk about your past, is completly changeable. The words you choose to describe how your life is and how is going to be, are 100% up to you. And after this I just focused on changing the way I saw myself. My grandmother would always say, “It all depends on the point of view, from where you choose to see”. And this profound grandma wisdom, was one of the keys to turn my life into a positive and heartfull experience.

Because whatever you are doing, where you are living, whatever your job is, your carreer or your lifestyle. There are two facts imposible to deny, one is that you are alive, and the second is that you are going to die. So whatever you choose from now on, I would really implore to you, that you start following your heart from here on.

Stop making fearfull decisions, stop making excuses, stop acting and playing. Start doing what you heart tells you to do. And you will discover that our heart, is always positive, is always full of love and is always right. 

Let yourself be inspired by life, let yourself be.