Be unstoppable: The power to believe you can

The power to believe

I can. I can. I can. I can do it. I can be. I can have. I can change. I can move. I can fight. I can rest. I can understand. I can learn. I can listen. I can communicate. I can express. I can teach. I can explore. I can forgive. I can remember. I can love. I can feel. I can cry. I can smile. I can enjoy. I can create. I can grow. I can live. I can die.

In this article we will explore the power to believe, how to get a clear idea of our priorities and how empower them to make them come true.

The act of believing is the main act

The most powerful act is to believe in ourselves, in our objectives, in our dreams. When things get difficult, when things get stuck, when feeling paralyzed or overwhelmed, the act of believing will get us out, will set us into action, will change our mood, fill our motivation and courage to do whatever is necessary.

When things are easy and smooth we don’t give so much importance to it, but in desperate times it turns out our beacon of hope. We must light it up with spells and affirmations, with positive thinking and with focus on the present moment.

What can we do now, with what we have in the best way possible?

Turns out that we don’t always meet the ideal requirements to fulfill our goals. Some days ago I read a post from a person stating that the main difference in between successful people and those who aren’t is that the successful people will focus on doing imperfectly rather than waiting for the ideal time.

You want to make videos but you only got your mobile. You want to workout but you can’t afford a gym membership. You want to travel but you don’t have the time or money for it. You want to invite your couple for a romantic date but you lack ideas or don’t feel attractive enough.

There are countless times in which our ideals are far from our reality, nevertheless when doing them anyway you discover a sense of progress and commitment. When you are able to cross through the excuses and put yourself into action anyway, perhaps you don’t get the most desirable results but the ones you get are better than doing nothing.

90% of the people I talk with, will tell me their «situation» and when given a possible solution they will answer like «My problem is…» and even if you continue giving them more solutions their answer will always start in the same way. At some point I ask if they really want to make a change or whats the whole idea of stressing up about something that in reality they don’t want to change!

It is tiring for them, it is tiring for their interlocutor and it is just a waste of time. If you are up to something, just do it and search for results later. When getting dead serious about it, you will find solutions, you will know what to do or what you need to prioritize.

Solution oriented mindset

If you are struggling with many things at the same time or you feel lost and stuck I have a very good exercise that will really help you out. It is a very simple way to detect and clarify everything that is troubling you, all the possible solutions and what to prioritize first.

  1. Make a list of all your problems, troubles and things you need to change or results you want to bring.
  2. Make a parallel list with all possible solutions for each one of them.
  3. Connect those that depends on each other, which solutions would address more than one problem, giving them an order of importance.
  4. Clarify your number 1 priority/solution that would help fix as many problems as possible or that would set up the base to start fixing them.

When you get a clear answer out of it, put yourself in action, sometimes we attract the solution without doing much.

On 2021, I was feeling very lost and was hard to put myself in action. I did this exercise and discovered that the root problem and the main solution that would help me reach out my other goals was only one, I needed to improve my french!

2 weeks later an opportunity came to attend a language school. After several months of stagnation I felt like finally getting out from the dark forest, the path was clear again, the financial situation improved and since then, things got better and better.

To believe you can, you need clarity over your priorities

So rather than having a blind faith over a distant dream I would rather suggest to allow yourself to clarify and define your priorities and use the power of belief to empower them. Imagine you are firing an arrow, you need to visualize it reach its destiny and after you throw it, believe it will come where you aimed at, there is nothing else to do afterwards.

Charge your arrows with positive affirmations to enchant them. To do so write down what you want, state it in present tense, use only positive words. Close your eyes and imagine yourself firing arrows and using powerful words to command them to reach their aim with success.

After all, the rest is just repetition and patience. Have a great day and share this post with friends and family!

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How to conquer your confidence and thrive

To have confident means that you know your value and you are ready to risk yourself for what you want

Our confidence is not always at the same state and most of the time is focused on specific activities or skills, like: «I am confident to play an instrument but maybe not as much to solve mathematical equations». One separate thing is to understand your own limitations and other is to have enough courage to do something new regardless of your level. Because nobody was born knowing how to do something and mastery of a certain skill takes effort and time, just being confident enough when a certain level is acquired and being paralyzed by that feeling, is a big detriment to change your life and thrive in new things, make a career change, etc.

In this article I will share with you where does confidence comes from and how to empower it by healing what is keeping us from our full potential.

Focusing our confidence inside and not externally

First we will want to make a difference in between focusing our confidence internally and externally. This means that when your source of confidence is «your personal value» and not «what others say about you» it will change completely the way you look at yourself and how others will perceive you as well. The meaning of happiness, success, peace, wealth, health and so on will not be determined by what others have or look like and how others perceive you, but on how you perceive yourself regardless of your current situation.

The way you talk to yourself is the way you identify with your current «state of mind». The more you reinforce feelings like self-pity, guilt, or apathy, the more they will be part of your «persona», your attitude towards life will be defined by this emotions and people will perceive you like a non trustful person. Therefore it will be harder to get better job opportunities, positive friends and a loving relationship with your significant other.

If you try to show to others how trustworthy you are, first you need to feel it deep in yourself, and that is a matter of attitude, self love and the capacity to see your reality with a certain objectivity. You can’t go there trying to make others happy and meet everybody’s expectations about yourself, if you don’t do that first with yourself. The results from doing that, which means being dishonest and treason your very own values, are destructive and cause of depression and suicide.

Things started to change drastically when I stopped focusing on my external situation and started giving real attention to my internal wellbeing. With simple activities such as enjoying time alone, being in nature, spending time with people that I felt loved, creating music or writing, dancing and doing sports. All this activities helped me to start seeing myself in another way, but what made the real change was to see myself as the only real source of energy and confidence, recognizing and accepting all those parts that needed attention and work and giving myself the time to do it.

Where lies the root of the lack of confidence?

Confidence is related to love, if you are a person that feels loved by «life or god», by your family, friends and peers, you will get a better chance to have a good amount of confidence. In the other hand, the lack of it, may come from a harsh childhood or nobody modeling us how to act with confidence. Many people may have had a «normal» life and family but their parents or teachers never taught them how to feel secure.

The lack of confidence comes from 3 negative feelings that we all had experienced since childhood: rejection, abandonment and humiliation.

The key component on this emotions is that they act as the source of most of our fears and confidence is being able to see, accept and confront it. When deeply identified to one of this emotions, all our actions will be defined by it. For example, a person that is deeply identified to the feeling of rejection will do anything to be accepted, losing her truth and real value for a piece of attention from somebody else. A person with too much abandonment will try to fill his life with many fake friends, material things or food. A person that was very humiliated will act in a distrustful way with destructive tendencies on excesses and will try to humiliate others to feel better.

When the rejected feels confident, stop caring about others opinions. When the abandoned is in confidence, learns to value herself more and builds positive relationships. When the humiliated feels confidence is able to change the destructive behaviors and trust in others.

Confidence is the strength and courage that comes from love

If you are a person that is looking to become more confident I recommend you put your attention on how much love you are able to receive and give. Learn how to be in balance on how much of this «attention» is being directed towards yourself and how much is going outside to somebody else.

Here are 6 actions that you can do right now to start growing your confidence

  1. Start a healing process of your inner child with a therapist or coach, asking for help when our past or fears seem to big is a safe way to start transforming your life.
  2. Learn to accept your past without judgement or shame, instead be empathic and kind to yourself always.
  3. Make peace with family and friends by cultivating forgiveness and compassion. Find your balance and leave the past in the past.
  4. Recognize what makes you feel fear or out of place and risk to put yourself into the experience. (Try not to harm yourself or others in the process)
  5. Practice new skills and learn new things, meet new people, travel to new places. Every time you try something new, you give yourself the chance to be a new person too.
  6. Learn to meditate to understand that you, me and everything else is interconnected. That we are all together in this life and that there is no separation from you and everything else. We are all one and one is all.

If you are looking for help to become a much more confident person just send me a message, I will be happy to help you.

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