Mindset: There is only one direction, forward

How to create a mindset that helps you keep going forward, even when all odds are against you?

In this article I will give you 3 ideas and strategies to start changing right now the way you identify with yourself, with success and failure so you can create a powerful and strong mindset.

10 years ago I decided to step into being a «lifestyle entrepreneur». What is this? Well basically you create a business around yourself to have the life you will enjoy most, that will make you feel happy, free, successful, etc. This years have given me deep understanding about the process, what skills are required and how to deal with failure, lots of it.

I like that phrase that says: «If it was easy, everybody would do it». I believe it applies to anyone that is trying to step over from a harsh environment, your comfort zone or trying to get to your «next level» (whatever it may be).

When first arrived to France I had to start from totally 0, had no connections, not plenty of money, just a big dream and lots of new cultural challenges. I remember that I bought a second hand bicycle (about 200 euros) to move around. I was living in a small town, in an area that you are at least 15km from any other town.

I remember starting to get my first personal training clients and the first studios where I could give Yoga lessons. I was just happy because I was able to do it. Of course I had to bike a lot! It was fun but at the same time very harsh, especially when there were cold rainy/windy days during winter. Most of the people around would say: «I could never do that».

One specially cold and rainy night, I was biking back to my home, it was one hour so I was just listening music with my headphones and seeing the whole «scene» as a movie like moment of my life. While reflecting on my life and goals I had a very powerful thought: «If you are not doing it when is hard, then you will probably not going to do it when is easy».

Normally you would think it is the opposite, but if you pay close attention to your own life, you will probably see that the moments in which you progressed the most, were those moments in which it was most challenging. Also thinking the opposite like: «I am going to do it in a better moment», is very dangerous, because it keeps you pushing off your goals and aspirations.

In the end it doesn’t matter how much you want something if you are not ready to do it even with the worst conditions. Because those days, when done, they make you stronger, they make you feel powerful, they become a stamp of your willpower and gives you the motivation to keep up.

How to create a powerful mindset that helps you keep going against rain and wind?

One direction: One day we are all going to die, certainly. So keep up your life very simple minded and avoid complications. There is no way to go back in time and «re do». So just let go the good times and the bad ones too, and focus on what can you do today while looking forward.

There are no mistakes: In certain moments we are forced to make tough decisions. What happens after any decision are the consequences of it. So you can look into them with the «positive crystal» or the «negative crystal», meaning, we are going to be judged by our own consciousness and sometimes others because of our decisions. Never let those judgments to take power from you, just learn the lessons, make the most of it, and see your goals to the end.

Embrace the present moment: By developing a disciplined «positive mind», you will learn to see any moment with good eyes. Accept what you have around you, accept the people around you, accept it all and let it be. You will find peace instead of stress, calm instead of anxiety, gratitude instead of fear.

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3 tools to wake up the fire of determination

Learn 3 tools to wake up the fire of determination and never let anything to stop you from getting what you want and becoming who you want to be.

Are you lacking the determination required to make any change in your life? Do you consider yourself a determined person when it comes to be 100% committed? What is the reason that some people can have the conviction to follow a path all the way in and many others don’t?

Why you should learn how to fire up and cut the crap quickly?

Life works with cycles and without them, probably it would lose the capacity to keep on going and evolving.

That’s right, the way we progress is by cycles too and we should aim to understand and set up our priorities accordingly. One of the biggest mistakes is to believe things are linear and we just need to go straight forward onto them.

So naturally we feel the desire to get something new and to do so we will need to make some adjustments on our daily habits in order to get it. The problem comes when we are not fully aware of our own cycles, so we expect to «work» with the same intensity all the time, for example. This bring us to deception and repetitive failure, which can make us feel frustration, guilt, anger, etc.

What will mostly happen is that we will need extra energy and time to get fired up again, and if we don’t know exactly how to do it efficiently, then we will quit that endeavour by calling it too difficult, not the right time, not enough «insert skill here», and so on.

Most skillful and successful people know exactly what to do when having their fire down, because they create a ritual or a group of actions to change it.

Understanding our motivation cycles

A wise-man shaman told me once that motivation is not enough to transform your life, that is only the beginning. If motivation is like a big fire in your heart, then determination is the spark that started it.

So let set an example, imagine that tomorrow you are starting a new diet, and by the 3rd day you go out with some friends and eat some slices of your favorite pizza. Most of us will feel guilt and after that will decide to re start the diet next week to fill up again with enough determination (strength). Which predictable we are not gonna start it again in any close date.

So we want to change this and we are not sure of how. Well, first take notes of all your failures and successes and try to understand how your «motivation cycle works». What do you do to feel motivated enough and then what do you do to start, and after what do you do to «fail» or «succeed». Once you get a clear understanding on how do you work internally, then is time to make some changes into that.

We will want to avoid repeating the cycles that brought us to failure, but because we are never really free from them, we should aim to build a protective mindset mechanism that will allow us to fall deep enough to quit(again).

How to start the fire «again»?

Get a goal, make a simple plan and start with what you can and have at the moment.

Sounds easy… but is not.

We will need 3 items to be able to start our fire again and again until we become very skillful and we basically stop noticing any deep changes in our mood and discipline.

Item #1: A ritual to make you spark on anytime and anywhere. It can be some sort of dance, getting out in nature, a conversation with a very like minded and positive friend or coach. Anything that as soon as you do it, makes you feel again the spark to start over and continue. I used to watch some motivational videos in youtube, made a playlist that I would listen everyday after work and would go directly to my training session, no distractions in the middle.

Item #2: The right mindset. Which basically means to understand that life is about cycles, that there are always going to be ups and downs, that perfection is an unattainable ghost, that nothing is so bad or so good, and we can always start again, no matter our age or anything else. The more we cultivate the right mindset, the less danger to quit or dwell into frustration, guilt and other negative emotions and thoughts.

Item #3: An object that remind us who we are, why we started and help us keep our faith in ourselves intact. It can be anything that regardless of the tides of life will always remember us our own value. We need conviction and a recordatory of it. It can be a song, a photo, a certain emotion or experience. Anything that keep us anchored to our inner strength and purpose. I like using a visual recordatory on the wall that I can see everyday.

What now? What else is needed? Am I ready to become a 100% fully determined person that will never let my failures put me down again so I can strive to be the best version of myself?

YES! and not exactly. Why? Because of course this requires practice and repetition, over and over and over. So my sincere wish is that you learn to see failure as your best friend and as new opportunities to master your determination.

There is no specific order in how to apply this tools, just concentrate in repeating them, making changes from time to time. Build up your winning ritual, write down the exact words to cultivate the right mindset and keep your object of anchorage close to you. The rest is just practice and nothing else.

Have a fully determined day starting right now!

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Inner Strength: Awaken your power within

Why is important?

If you pay attention to how life works, you will understand that strength is one of the most important abilities that anyone and any living being needs in order to survive. It is the mother of many other capacities that without strength would be dormant.

Of course there are several kinds of strengths and different dimensions to it. But in my opinion the most important one is the strength that comes from the spirit. The power of will, to exist, to be which is innate to our spirit and consciousness in the same way energy is released from the sun.

We could use the sun as a symbol of the raw and real strength that comes within our essence. We should imagine ourselves like a burning star in the cosmos giving constant energy and all sort of radiations to the entire universe.

Without those stars, life in our planet would be impossible, and in the same way, without our power of will, our life could not persevere.

How strength influences our life?

Visualize strength as a raw material that you need to create other skills; such as determination, vigor, patience, perseverance, resilience, wisdom, compassion, control, intelligence, concentration, and much more. You name it, any kind of activity you put yourself into, will ask you to make effort in some extent. Will need you to adapt or change in order to bring new results or outputs. Will require your capacity to repeat the same action or process several times until you reach your desired goals.

Discipline and Strength

If strength is the raw energy, discipline is what gives the shape. It has the capacity to empower it, remove the excess and give a purpose. But discipline without strength is useless, you can’t be a disciplined person without being strong. You need both together, even if you have tremendous amounts of inner strength, without the intelligence of discipline it will be lost. The beauty in this is that when you start working in order to build strength, at the same time you create discipline.

What have I learnt from strength training?

  • Our body needs to adapt and external changes take their time to become «permanent». Grow the strength of patience.
  • It is a slow process, we don’t have to rush things over, if you are strong enough to persevere, you will see results, without a doubt.
  • Growth is not linear, adaptation and change are a constant. There are ups and downs, be relentless.

What have I learnt from meditation practice?

  • A clear mind is awake and ready to act anytime, it commands and empower your body with determination.
  • A mind that is able to stay concentrated even in harsh environments is stronger and superior than a mind that doesn’t.
  • Emotional strength and stability is only available for us when there is enough consciousness.

How can I grow my inner strength starting today?

  • Wake up to see the sunrise.
  • Do physical strength training 2 or 3 times a week.
  • Meditate 10 minutes daily.
  • Do fasting once every month.
  • Express your feelings in a healthy way.
  • Have cold showers.
  • Learn to be lonely in silence.
  • Practice forgiveness, gratitude and compassion.

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Vinyasa Krama Yoga in Saint Tropez

Vinyasa Krama Yoga in Saint Tropez – France

Are you coming to Saint Tropez area, and you would like to practice yoga?

Here I wrote this article for you to know a little bit of what you will find if you practice with me.

Where does it come from?

Vinyasa Krama Yoga was developed by Srivatsa Ramaswami, direct student of Sri T. Krishnamacharya, who trained with him from over 30 years. The base of its practice is to connect the beautiful flows and transitions with breathing, generating consciousness in a harmonious way, uniting movement with a focused mind.

Fast or Slow?

There is a misconception on Vinyasa Yoga, that it has to be done fast.

Normally we will go to Vinyasa classes where you don’t stop or hold the Asanas. But in my personal opinion, we can’t move fast, if we can’t move slow. Only through holds, we generate self knowledge of each Asana.

Many movements are way harder when we do them slow, and the way our body improves is much more efficient, regarding strength, endurance and control.

Also, the correct way to practice Vinyasa Krama Yoga is, that if I move slow, my breathing should be slow, and if I move fast, my breath has to go fast. This requires a lot of concentration and focus, to really generate union between them.

Normally in my own practice, I prefer to start slow, until I feel 100% connected into a flowing breathing movement. Then it starts being faster and with less time holding the Asanas, but only in a speed that the breath-movement flow is not lost. If my breath starts being faster due to lack of endurance, then I will come back to longer holds.

I picture it as a dance, both (breathing and movement) have to go together at the same pace, otherwise the rythm is lost.

Sequences and Creativity

What happens if we always repeat the same sequence? We get very good at it, but at nothing else.

That is why, I believe that we have to explore different ways to come from one Asana into another. Different ways will generate different connections in our nervous system.

Once we get good at some basic movements and transitions, we should explore into different ways to reach them. We develop an encyclopedia of movements in our brain and body. And from time to time, get back to the basics and repeat them again, so we widen our base. Through time and practice we will be able move in lots of different ways and our practice will seem limitless.

The only constant is change. One day we will choose a peaceful relaxing practice and some other day we will prefer a vigorous one. Depending in how we feel, what our body and mind needs, external circumstances, etc. So we should play with this, feel free to create and explore, and the most important thing, learn to listen to your body.

Because we should always aim for balance, if we only practice in one specific way, we lose our balance too. Our practice should have several goals, rather than just relax, or strength or flexibility. It should take them all in account and give time for all of them to develop.

We will always have some preferences, such as doing handstands or just sitting into breathwork and meditation, but because we are a whole, and this practice focuses on that, then we have to practice what it doesn’t feel confortable or fun to us. With the correct guidance and support, we will learn how to reach new limits and produce a true change in ourselves.

Adapted Practice

Does the practice has to adapt to the practitioner? Or on the contrary, the practice should be rigid and is the practitioner that has to adapt to it?

I believe that is the practice the one that has to be adapted. First, based on the nature of our bodies. Our body structure will tell us, where our limits are. Then, after getting better at practicing within them, we can start exploring the possibility of widen them, little by little. But always considering our health and well-being as a priority.

Sometimes in the same classes we will find people with very different level of practice and physical conditions. In my experience, high level practitioners tend to focus their practice more specifically, and novice practitioners, will do just what they can.

How do we find a balance under this circumstances? I believe that, by focusing on the base, even a high level practitioner will gain from it, and the novices will learn and have fun at the same time.

Opening the door to Meditation

Moving in fancy ways is fun, but Yoga is much more than just movement. It should be a door to Meditation.

We should at least have as we have a yogasana practice every day or 3 times a week, we also should meditate in the same way in a different practice time or moment, but we all know how hard is to do this, very few have the discipline to get into it for a long period of time, and I include myself into this group. That is why, when we practice Yoga, it should be taken as an opportunity to meditate, first in an active way, and then, spend 5 to 10 minutes sitting down.

If we don’t do this, then Yoga transforms only in a gymnastics practice. Which for many, including myself, is a deformation of its original purpose.

As I mentioned before, the practice has to adapt to each person, but it also should keep a certain structure that enables anyone to develop all kind of skills, and meditation is one of them, probably the most important one.

There are enough studies that reveal how good is meditation for our health and life in general. And originally, Yoga was developed, to enhance the practitioner capacity to stay in a sitted position for meditation. So even if we end up doing fancy handstands or backbends, we have to remember, that the real purpose for our practice is to meditate.

Vinyasa Krama in Saint Tropez

If you read until this point of this article, you will know exactly what will you find if you attend to my classes. Private or groupal, the base will remain the same. We will work hard, to gain focus and control, over our mind and body.

I invite you to practice with me, in any circumstance, as a Private course or Group classes. We will learn the bases of Pranayama and Meditation. We will talk about some deep concepts that can clear our understanding of life and ourselves, and we will practice and sweat together in the rhythm of Vinyasa Krama Yoga.

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A Fitness Nomad in Tulum

I was in Chile having a successful job as personal trainer but I felt something was missing. I had this deep feeling of travelling and see for myself, how could be to travel and work as a fitness coach in other country, in a beautiful and magical place, close to the sea, and surrounded by nature. I really thought about doing this for a long time, and after a year, I threw myself to the experience.

This article is meant for anyone who is wanting to do the same. Maybe you watched a motivating video in your instagram, or maybe you have a friend that is doing it too. Maybe you feel you have accomplished almost everything society wanted from you, and now you are looking for a change. Something more sintonized with your spirit.

The reasons can be multiple, only you know what is better for you. So I will just leave part of my experience here, so it serves to you.

Why Tulum?

Many people asked me when I was already there. I would say, that it was a mixture of intuition and circumstances. First, I had Mexico in mind long time ago to visit. Second, I wanted to go to the caribbean sea. Third, I was looking for a place with nature and interesting things to do, at the same time, didn’t wanted to go to a big city or to a remote place, just something in the middle. Fourth, the first time I was in Tulum, during my travel through Mexico, I had this special feeling of «I would live here», and even I knew amazing places after this first visit, none of them gave me the same sensation, so I went back to Tulum and decided that I would stay and do the bet (this decision was the most difficult and transformed my life forever, for a better life).

How did I start?

I just sent email to all hotels and Yoga studios and Fitness centers I could find in a google search, presenting myself with a little resume and a link to my social media and websites, asking for an interview or chance to work there. Went knocking door by door, doing the same. Until someone gave me the chance to start, and then everything just went forward like a snowball.

Would I do this again?

Yes! Totally, but with some considerations and deeper goals in mind that just having the experience. Because is never enough, when you are a seeker, you discover that there is a part of you that only shines when you set foot out of your confort zone and do what you love. Its risky, its dangerous, its difficult, and lonely. But at the same time is one of the best experiences in life for you self steem, for your soul, for your personal and professional growth.

You see, I had in mind a dream. My dream was to have a carreer jump into an international public, use all the skills I got and learn new. Reach new people and add them into my life, not just as figures in the social media, but as a real human, doing real things. Not only locally, but globally.

My suggestions to you:

  1. Learn and use new languages. In Tulum, english is a must, because of the international audience. You have to be able to give classes in english and if you know more languages, they add up. When you contact possible places to work in, do it in english.
  2. Have a medical insurance, just in case. I had dengue and some infections due to street food, so is good that you consider this.
  3. Don’t be afraid. Nobody knows you, so consider yourself starting from zero and give yourself the chance to be who you are. There is nobody to impress. Be yourself, do what you love, show up and give your best.
  4. Consider the visa permits to stay in the country you are visiting and have the necessary money, to go out and come in again if you plan to stay longer. Also have a money reserve or a ticket to go back to your country just in case there is an emergency.
  5. Choose the right season. Places like Tulum in which many people go for vacations, has of course high and low season. If you are planning to go for the high season, expect to have a lot of competition, many other yoga, meditation and fitness teachers and alike, want to do the same. I started in the lower season, this made it a little easier to find a job, and if you focus on doing your work right, and in positive relationships with the bussiness owners, you can expect to have better oportunities for the high season.
  6. Enjoy it. You never know if this is going to be the last time you do something like this. The amount of things we can really put under our control is so few that really, don’t stress if things don’t go the way you planned. Just go with the flow, enjoy the ride and be literally like a sponge. Absorb all the experiences, into you, keep the beautiful and good people in your heart and of course your social media, and let go everything else.

In the end, the main actor and creator of your life is you. Follow your heart and intuition, it will serve you as a compass when you feel lonely or lost, avoiding trouble and dangers that may show up in your journey.

Be aware of some people, because not everything that shine is gold. Many people are waiting for persons with their heart open, to take some kind of advantage, so don’t loose yourself, remember who you are, your roots and the people who love you back in your country. Because you are going to be the ambassador of everyone and everything you learnt at home.

I wish that if you are reading this, to take the decision to jump out, DO IT, fearlessly and with love in your heart. Don’t travel to escape your reality, don’t explore the world with unresolved relationships and feelings. Do it because you are complete, and you feel ready to give your best out there. And if at any moment, you need someone to express or communicate your thoughts and feelings. You can write to me, I will be happy to answer.

Love.

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Why Yoga?

Some time ago I started practicing Yoga for various reasons. But every time I practiced, would let me with more hungry to learn more about this discipline. So just for having a deeper learning, decided to make a Teacher Training, in order to really get myself involved.

Of course there were more reasons than just curiosity, and later the practice and the teacher training process, opened new viewpoints of understanding, of myself and Yoga. In fact I never thought of myself on becoming a Yoga Teacher, but life and its constant flux, just made it happen, which resulted into a very deep gratification, being able to connect with other people in a completly different way, as I was used to do as a Fitness Coach. Also, the practice itself changed, not just by doing it for myself, but for sharing it to others, which gave me a rich feeling of gratitude.

The day I started to practice Yoga, was specifically for developing more flexibility. Because I was seeing that this was a big difficulty that interfered with my overall fitness training, my body was stiff, which was not really pleasent, and by following a good friend’s suggestion, in order to avoid future injuries, specially in the back area, I started by doing Sun Salutations (Suryanamaskar)everyday.

When you start working out and being more conscious about your own body, you start learning about your own anatomy, and you can discover that we are build through chains of systems that interact and connect to each other, in order to function correctly. Seems obvious, but normally we don’t have this kind of awareness when «moving», so by our own mistakes and lack of body-consciousness, and also because of bad coaching, we injury ourselves, and this may result into having to stop our training, depression and sometimes, having worst injuries, without turning back to a normal condition.

So, I started to practice Yoga, which was specifically about flexibility. But later, as my practice continued I discovered that it could also develop my strength and control over my own movements. And this really amazed me, because I was used to one kind of training, and this opened my eyes into a better understanding of my body and mind, strengths, weaknesses and new abilities like balance, inversions, etc.

Also I learnt new ways to move my body, that opened my creativity and connection to it. Suddenly, training was way beyond repetitions and progressions and weights, it was more about connecting, understanding, reaching, opening and closing, stretching, focusing not only in movement, but also in my breathing, my eyes, the intention of where and how I gaze, the rythm and speed. It started to become less about control and more about letting go, acceptance and self awareness.

My most precious thing I have been learning and developing is about being always in balance.

Because Yoga is about finding your center, and expand from and through it. And this can be applied to anything, like our job, relationships, food, fun, etc.

Of course what can you expect from a 5000 years old discipline? Non the less. But for me, Yoga, even if I wanted to practice it for physical aspects, was also a way to link the spiritual development together with the rest of my life, like putting together the puzzle.

And it was a good decision, because I learnt that originally, Yoga was created by ancient spiritual seekers to able their bodies endure long hours of meditation. Even in Buddhist text you can find evidence, that taking care of our physical condition was a priority in order to accomplish more advanced spiritual states.

This gave me other kind of motivation for my personal practice (Sadhana), and finally I felt that by following this path I could master myself in all areas, that as a world citizen from the XXI century, I look forward to accomplish, by creating a lifestyle of success and wisdom, happiness and consciousness.

From here on, I invite you to explore and find your way to develop as a complete human being. Why? Because is nice and fun. Because you will discover more about you than in any other activity our society has to offer.

One way to be in balance is to recover and practice the old knowledge that was left by our ancestors before us, while embracing the world we are creating today, finding the center in between technology and nature. Not for us, but for the good of our future generations.

Peace.

Follow your Heart

Undoubtfully, our heart always knows our hidden truth. For some reason this will always apply, regardless of any situation. If we could just focus on what our heart and intuition has to say for us, we could really walk our daily life without all the mumbling that our mind has. 

One day a friend asked me what did I do with all my preocupations when speaking about decisions for our life. And I just told her, «I quit them». Just plainly and simply, I was cornered to a position in which whatever I could do, would solve none of my problems. And at this situation the only thing I could really do was to quit thinking about my problems and just «go with the flow» with whatever decision I took.

Suddenly this became a mayor wisdom for me, because the only thing left for me, was a huge amount of determination that I could really use in my everyday life to just go through whatever it was tossed to me. It was’t that my problems disapeared from me, I just understood one simple principle, «the only thing i really had, was my present moment». And at this level, when you understand this and you really start living it, then every preocupation, fear and doubt, just go away. You stop thinking about what might be, and you start doing what you can with what you’ve got. And life turns simply into a matter of doing and following this energy of determination and will. Like if suddenly you could grab the wave, and you would just flow with it, without thinking about anything else.

I’ve been travelling and having deep conversations through all my journeys with different people from all over the world, and many of them, eventually would say me something like, «wow, Félix, you are so inspiring». And this, far from getting me into feeling like a better person, just make me realize that probably is because of the passion and positivity from which I tell my stories.

One day I just realized that our past is imposible to change, but the way you talk about your past, is completly changeable. The words you choose to describe how your life is and how is going to be, are 100% up to you. And after this I just focused on changing the way I saw myself. My grandmother would always say, «It all depends on the point of view, from where you choose to see». And this profound grandma wisdom, was one of the keys to turn my life into a positive and heartfull experience.

Because whatever you are doing, where you are living, whatever your job is, your carreer or your lifestyle. There are two facts imposible to deny, one is that you are alive, and the second is that you are going to die. So whatever you choose from now on, I would really implore to you, that you start following your heart from here on.

Stop making fearfull decisions, stop making excuses, stop acting and playing. Start doing what you heart tells you to do. And you will discover that our heart, is always positive, is always full of love and is always right. 

Let yourself be inspired by life, let yourself be.

Purpose

Once upon a time, there was a child, who would look into the stars and ask, why am I here? For what reason I came to live in the place I do? And this questions became an important thing to find out, so at the age of 11, I started to be interested in philosophy and different ways of understanding what was going on, why should I go to school, or why was important to do what adults where stating to be “important”. And what happened is that, I never found any answers, not until I was already an adult in my mid twenties. Even going to University, to study and deepen my knowledge in phylosophy, could not help me find any clue about life itself and my own purpose. So my decision at that moment was to drop it, and just start having all kind of experiences for which, someday, they would help me comprehend and not only understand, all that “phylosophycal knowledge”.

After some years, had a relationship break up, and also a life changing experience. One day, just as normal as any other, I took a profound and deep decision with myself. To love who I was, no matter what. To accept everything I was at that very moment, and open up to feel that life loved me as part of everything else. That day, I decided to start making decisions with my heart and with love as my number one pillar. Nothing that others could do or say about me, would matter to me anymore, and the only one that I would listen, would be myself. So that day, I learned the best truth of life, one can never love others more than how we love ourselves. So the first priority, is to understand, accept, be honest with, respect, trust, and take full responsability for oneself.

Of course, many experiences came in the form of tests, to grow into this decision, and still feel that there is a long way to go, regarding self love, but I am thankfull to all what happened in my past, because is thanks to those experiences, the good ones and the bad ones, that I am here today, writting this, and looking forward for a life full of purpose, love and freedom.

In my late twenties I was again in a critical point, this time regarding work. I felt so emty at the current job I had, and also the current lifestyle I was carrying. The only thing I knew, is that I wanted that my job, would be on the benefit of others, and not just a matter of making money, paying bills and grow old. How difficult can be, to have the life that you really want? When you are in that messy point, in which you need that job to live, but you feel empty as a dead shell, and all you do to stop that emptyness, in becoming bigger and bigger, are temporary “fun stuff”. Until one day, I realized, that even those things, are as empty as everything else I was doing.

So I started to use all the knowledge on Human Development, Leadership, Coaching, Buddhism and Shamanism, that I had been learning those years, Coached myself and received mentoring, to find the right answer.  Finding your own life purpose, can be difficult, but finding a job that you really like, has to be easier. And of course, finding both, a purpose to live and a job that you love, have almost the same answer. So I took my chances and decided to reinvent my self as a professional, and from that point forward, everything became clearer, my footsteps became stronger and the vision of a life of purpose, started to seem posible.

Then I reached another moment, in which I took another life changing decision, that would be, making physical activity (training), a priority and a fundamental pillar for my life. On that day I had a confrontation with myself, because at the same time I was thinking, that I should train more often and make it part of my lifestyle, my mind would give me all kind of crappy excuses, such as, “I have no time, I have no money, etc”. And looking at a bonfire I shut off that mind, and replied, “hey, you don’t need money to go to a park and do some squats and pushups, or run a mile. And regarding time, you just need to priorize it, organize your agenda, and do it.” I mean, you only need motivation, and there is, when i started to understand my lack of motivation towards life and my current job, and that strong desire to find a purpose. I could see with certainity, all what I needed was to make the decision and start doing it, right now, so two days later, i started and kept doing it until today (6 years later).

Thanks to training and determination, I developed skills like, self motivation, resilence, perseverance, consistency. I became more tenacious, my self-steem improved, all together with some physical changes, becoming stronger and braver. Training taught me that “fear”, is not my enemy, unless I let it, it is a teacher and a friend that shows me all those things that I could be good at, but that I just need to invest more time and more effort, because if you follow a good training program and eat healthy, you will get the results you want, the only thing you need to do, is to keep doing it, no matter what.  So the way to make fear into your ally, is by trusting who you are, what are you doing, and what you want to become, and stop making excuses.

The second good thing about all this training, is that I discovered a new passion, which is coaching and training people. For some years I always wanted to develop professionally as a Life Coach and was doing it for some time. Training and the passion for it, gave me a way to make a new carreer, this two skills, together with my tireless search for a deep meaning of life, gave me the vision I was looking for as a purpose. What if I could be able to support and help others to find themselves, find their purpose and meaning of life, be there to motivate and inspire with my own life as an example, that everything is posible, that everything we dream can be done, if we just do it. The same way, my mentors and coaches where there for me, I dreamed of becoming a human being like them, someone whom to look up and receive inspiration, human wisdom, love and caring. Be completly congruent with my own ideals, emotions and actions. I knew this was no easy task, almost like a never ending one. But one of many thoughts I had, that pushed me to do it, was that, “If i am alive, I have the chance to do it, and I just need to believe in my self and my dream, and devote to it, breath it every day, and never surrender, even if things get hard”.

If I train my self physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, I can be that human being, I thrive to be, I can be my own light and show to others, that there is always a way to make things happen, that life can be fullfilling, that the job we have, can become one of purpose and hope, that like the sun shines every morning, we all can do it too. I know, that there are others like me, with the same motivation, I know that there are millions of people wandering if they can become aware, and fullfill their hopes and dreams. And for sure I know that is possible to do it, every day until our time of death, we can live our dreams.

Coach Félix Fuenzalida

Homenaje a mi Padre

Decidí escribir un artículo en homenaje a mi amado Padre, y me lo tomo primero como una forma de agradecerle a él la vida que me dió. También es una forma de rescatar todo lo positivo que él ha generado en mi vida, todos esos rasgos que tengo y que son espejos del modelaje paternal que recibí durante mi infancia y adolescencia.

Para comenzar me declaro a mí mismo, un rebelde, con y sin causa, en momentos de lucidez y en momentos de confusión. Y la primera persona con la que me rebelé, fuiste tú. Ahora a mis 33 años, veo que lo hice en esos momentos como una forma de sentirme dueño de mis decisiones, pero en un acto de sinceridad, lo hice también para decirte, mírame aquí estoy. Quería simplemente llamar tu atención, y sentir que me aceptabas.

A veces es difícil reconocer que lo que en verdad queremos es amor. Y es tan fundamental esta necesidad humana, de sentirnos conectados al amor, a través de quienes nos lo enseñaron y mostraron desde nuestro nacimiento. Siento que es hasta más importante que el mismo aire que respiramos, y que por variadas razones, no siempre logramos sentir esa conexión.

Esta desconexión que tuve por muchos años en relación a tí, me hizo sentir en muchos momentos, soledad. Una soledad vacía que me costaba comprender, y me engullía en angustia, tristeza y rabia. Sentir que estás siendo rechazado por la persona que te dio la vida, es un símil al suicidio, a perder toda esperanza de vida, a perderse a sí mismo, encontrando poco significado para mantenerse de pie y seguir hacia adelante.

Aunque dicen que la naturaleza es sabia y nos da justo lo necesario para crecer y aprender, me hubiera gustado sentir que estabas de mi lado, en esa edad en la que más lo necesitaba. Cuando poco o nada entendemos del mundo, y en vez de sentirte como mi enemigo,  sentir que con amor me enseñabas a tener coraje, a confiar en mí mismo, sin importar las dificultades que vinieran. Simplemente no te puedo puedo culpar, ya que te esforzaste trabajando de domingo a domingo, para darnos a mi y mis hermanos, la mejor vida posible, con las mejores posibilidades y siempre dándonos la oportunidad de elegir qué era lo mejor para nosotros, sin ser impositivo ni controlador.

Tengo un espíritu de guerrero, fuerte y sabio, y eso me ha llevado hasta el hombre que soy hoy. Y te agradezco que hayas sido como fuiste. Ahora me doy cuenta que si me hubiera gustado sentirme aceptado, que me lo hubieras hecho saber, que mis decisiones eran válidas para tí y que las respetabas. En vez de criticarlas o juzgarlas. Al final, hoy, puedo ver que lo has hecho, hemos madurado juntos como Padre e Hijo, y puedo decirte estas cosas a la cara.

Un gran amigo y mentor espiritual, me dijo una vez; «La aceptación es la llave para la felicidad». Y esta frase que me acompaña desde ese entonces, me ha dado fuerza, ánimo y despertado en mí, un sentimiento interno de compasión por los demás. Y es esta práctica de la aceptación la que me lleva a escribirte hoy, honrarte en este espacio, tan íntimo y personal. Decirle al mundo lo importante que eres para mí. En verdad deseo que estas palabras nos sirvan para estar más unidos hoy y que les sirvan a otros que han se hayan sentido «lejos o desconectados» de su padre, que pueden hacer las paces, que este es un acto que nace del corazón, que podemos hacerlo una y otra vez a lo largo de nuestra vida y que los que ya son padres o desean serlo, puedan modelar en sus hijos un comportamiento sano, de crecimiento, de amistad, respeto, confianza, valor y entereza.

En mis «20» hice varias búsquedas internas, comenzando por la mismísima decadencia y autodestrucción al salir de la adolescencia y luego una más elevada, que me conectó profundamente con la naturaleza y mi espíritu. Asistí a varios retiros de liderazgo, meditación y chamanismo, donde poco a poco fui sanando la amargura y soledad de mi corazón, hasta convertirla finalmente en alegría, regocijo y felicidad. Y si bien aún me siento en el proceso de sanación, puedo ver hacia atrás el camino recorrido, puedo ver mi niñez y decir gracias.

Hace unos días atrás estábamos ordenando una estantería llena de libros antiguos, fotocopias y carpetas con hojas. Entre todo esto encontré una antigua fotografía, donde estabas enseñándome a caminar cuando yo tenía 1 año de edad, aproximadamente. Rápidamente la tomé y la guardé, me fui a otra habitación y lágrimas comenzaron a brotar de mis ojos, un sentimiento profundo y muy real se estaba apoderando de mí. Era una mezcla de tristeza y felicidad que me inundaba y me llenaba. «Mi papá, mi papito», pensé en ese momento, e incluso ahora que lo escribo, vuelvo a sentirme igual. Una emoción contenida quizás por muchos años. Esto es tan potente, que pensé en compartirlo, al comienzo por redes sociales, pero, realmente elegí darle un espacio en mi Blog, ya que no quiero que se pierda en el devenir de la comunicación digital inmediatista y que pueda obtener cierta permanencia, no sólo por razones terapéuticas, sino que por motivos de trascendencia.

Si esto me ha afectado a mí, también podría estar afectando de igual, menor o mayor manera a otros hombres en este planeta. Y siento un llamado fundamental a compartir esta experiencia con ustedes y que les sirva de la mejor manera en su desarrollo humano.

No quiero centrarme en teorías psicológicas, sobre el desarrollo del autoestima, o de la importancia de sanar las relaciones con nuestra figura paterna y materna, respectivamente. Ya que prefiero que sea un escrito cargado de emoción y de verdad humana. Y que haya un contexto de integración, sincero y profundo.

papa y yoEn este artículo, quiero decirte que me siento conmovido totalmente por esta imagen nuestra, donde me sujetas de los brazos y me ayudas a dar mis primeros pasos. Me doy cuenta, de cómo has continuado haciéndolo, siempre a tu manera, hasta el mismo día de hoy. Quiero decirte que puedo reconocer y ver todo el esfuerzo y el sacrificio que has puesto en el desarrollo mío y de mis hermanos. Puedo ver tu sufrimiento como hombre, puedo ver tus errores, puedo ver tu humanidad vulnerable, y sobre todo esto, puedo ver el inmenso e ilimitado amor que me has dado, hasta el día de hoy.

Quiero honrarte porque quiero que seamos amigos, quiero que te puedas apoyar en mí, quiero me ayudes a crear un nuevo mundo, donde los hombres y mujeres, honran a sus padres y los amen, en donde los padres y madres del mundo, honren y amen a sus hijos, y la sabiduría inmensa del amor, los guíe a tomar las mejores decisiones posibles.

Quiero decirte que te dedico mi trabajo, mi vida, mi legado. Por que, gracias a ti estoy vivo y soy quien soy. Por eso te dedico mis éxitos y victorias. Sé que puedo compartir contigo también mis fracasos, mis metidas de pata y que me escucharás y estarás ahí para mí. Porque tú estás en mi corazón para siempre, estamos juntos, Padre e hijo, amigos, guerreros y hombres sabios y sensibles, artistas, viajeros del mundo interior.

Que este homenaje se impregne en nuestro espíritu, que nos devuelva la fortaleza perdida, que nos llene de energía positiva y poderosa y que se extienda a todos los padres e hijos que por cualquier causa, lo necesiten. Estoy seguro que si todos nos atrevemos a reconocer nuestro dolor y nos entregamos a nuestra vulnerabilidad, es nuestra fortaleza interna la que se maximiza, que reconocer nuestras heridas, sólo nos puede volver mejores. Que la verdadera sanación viene del espíritu indomable, puro, como el de un caballo que corre libre por las praderas. Que con su fuerza interna y su liderazgo natural, se entrega a la vida misma.

Hoy es nuevo día, y el sol nos muestra el camino, hacia el mañana que queramos recorrer.

Te amo Papá.